When everyone plays small

When we ask any segment of any population to play small, the whole population loses out. That’s wasted talents, wasted skills, wasted hours of life. The victims of such pressures spend too much human capital trying to sort out what is wrong with them. Society invests too much resources trying to help them overcome that burden.

When everyone plays small, everyone loses. Apologize for being hot? I think not. Embrace your talents, your gifts, your skills, your beauty, your space on this planet. You’re here for a reason, figure it out, and shine!

Confidence is not cockiness

Let’s not get ahead of ourselves though and get too confident. There is such a thing as too much of a good thing. When you’re way too sure, you take risks you’re not supposed to, expose others to harm that you’d not otherwise expose them to, and do things that are not fully rational.

That exuberance that comes from being too sure is how many economic down turns have started. That’s how many investments failed.

Confidence is having that knowledge from due diligence to move forward with faith and assurance that you’re going to get the results you want to get. Cockiness is that delusion that all is well just because you decided that all will be well. get your facts first

Many who lack confidence will attack those with it and label them as cocky. And those who are cocky, well, they’re off the charts.

When you’re confident, do take precaution not to have too many haters and doubters give you advice on your own power. They can be bad influences on your view of yourself. Balance their views with that of those who know more and can better assess your skills and give you the accurate feedback you need to keep up your confidence and growth.

Positive self assessment is not unrealistic self assessment

Some feel that being positive is wrong. That you shouldn’t be so positive. Well, considering that positivity does not mean lack of reality, where is the harm in having a positive assessment of yourself?

Whatever your mind focuses on, grows. If you’ve gotten into the habit of having a negative self-assessment, that will get stronger with time and you’ll lose perspective of who you are and what you’re capable of. That’s one way apologies about your worth sneaks in.

Positivity is not lack of reality. Positivity looks for possibilities and growth opportunities. Keep a positive view of yourself. Furthermore, a positive mindset can look at negative attributes and embrace them with the understanding that a solution is available somewhere for that negative attribute.

So, rock the positive without apology.

There is enough negativity about and around you, why internalize more than necessary

Check the news. Check the social media. Check your friends. Check life.

It is full of negativity.

Not going to bring all of that inside my head and let it rent space I barely have to give out. Plus, we all do enough negative self talk to begin with anyway. Don’t add by setting time to further beat on yourself negatively.

let’s tackle the all important topic of humility and how that relates to this topic… on the next page